Knowledge is not Wisdom

If you take a closer look at the front cover of my book Narcotic Love, you will find the line “Written by a Survivor for Survivors” on it. On the back cover, I mention that the book serves survivors or those who are currently in a toxic situation (who will Continue Reading

Knowing When to Quit

One of the hardest decisions we face in our lives is knowing when to quit. We humans are creatures of habit and, thus, we have a tendency to cling to outdated concepts, routines, relationships, and believes; a comfort zone that we do not want to leave even though it has Continue Reading

Crisis Reveals True Character

Our entire world is in survival mode right now. If the COVID-19 crisis we are currently experiencing does us only one favor, then it is revealing the true character of those we deem to be our loving and caring partners, family members, or friends. It would not be much of Continue Reading

Dealing with CPTSD During Self-Quarantine

If you have recently come out of a situation in which you experienced narcissistic abuse, chances are high that you are currently struggling with the symptoms of Complex Post-traumatic Stress (Disorder). Symptoms include: low self-esteem feeling of shame and guilt feeling of frustration, helplessness and being misunderstood depression and emotional Continue Reading

Workaholism: a Self-Destructive Coping Mechanism

For most part of my life, I used to call myself a workaholic. I used to be proud of my achievements and the careers I was building, and wore this badge with honor to the demise of my overall well-being. It was not until I had reached a breaking point Continue Reading

You are the First Responder

It has been two years since I have started my healing journey after a toxic relationship. This morning, I remembered the first six months of counseling and all the frustration that had come with it. While I had been struggling to overcome the trauma from my most recent encounter with Continue Reading

The Weather Approach to Acceptance

I live in Vancouver, Canada. If you have never been to Vancouver before, let me tell you, it can be frustrating sometimes… actually, quite often. I am not talking about the horrendous rents and mortgages here but something that is completely out of our control: the weather, of course. Informally Continue Reading

What Happened to Time?

It is without a doubt that we live in a fast-paced world today. However, as we all know, instant gratification is usually a short-lived experience and nothing to base our happiness on, so what is the matter with taking a step back and consider if the choices we make are Continue Reading

“What are your strengths?” a Useless Question

Have you ever left a job interview feeling stripped down and misjudged? Have you ever followed up later and seen who actually got the job with your head shaking, “How is this possible?“ In a time where sociopathy is on the rise, “What are your strengths?” seems like a useless Continue Reading

Subtle Red Flags of Covert Narcissism pt.1

When it comes to covert narcissists, we know that they can appear pretty articulate, charming, charismatic, knowledgeable, understanding, supportive, and caring. Conversations with them seem to be fun and interesting, at first, before they turn into mind-twisting manipulative conversations from hell and word salad if we get too far involved. Continue Reading