Stay for the children?

“We stay together for our children.” Parents First off, this article may surprise you, if you know that I do not have children. So how can I possibly be the judge of this situation? I can, because I was one of the children in a household of domestic violence where Continue Reading

Narcissism vs. Self-Love

You must love yourself firstbefore you can love someone else. The above saying is not only a cliché but it is also true. There is one thing narcissists and those who get involved with them for too long definitely have in common: a lack of self-love. Narcissists project their own Continue Reading

Keep the Evidence

If you were a victim of covert narcissistic abuse, chances are, you had been pretty much isolated, the abuse happened behind closed doors, and that is why a great number of people are not going to believe anything you say about this wonderful, charming, and supportive individual, i.e. the covert Continue Reading

The Book Aisle Sociopath

We are amidst the Christmas season, the malls are crowded, the music and decoration awake the spirit in us, and everyone is out buying presents for their loved ones. Everywhere we go, we feel love around us. Some of us spend those days with their families or partners, others are Continue Reading

“It’s not your fault.”

Below you see one of the most powerful scenes survivors may encounter, not just in the film Good Will Hunting, but in their own lives. It took me a long time to understand Robin William’s repetition of “It’s not your fault.” until I committed to healing myself. Suddenly, the scene Continue Reading

What is narcissistic abuse?

Narcissistic abuse in intimate relationships is the systematic destruction of a narcissist’s partner for his/her personal gain of narcissistic supply. Victims supply a narcissist in various ways, e.g. attention, housing, transportation, money, sex, food, status, jobs, etc. Narcissistic abuse follows a universally recognizable pattern divided in the four phases: Idealization or Love-bombing Devaluation Discard Continue Reading

Vancouver: BWSS 40 Years Later

Last Monday, I attended BWSS’s 40 Years Later celebration at the Orpheum in Vancouver with special guest Tarana Burke, the founder of the #MeToo movement. BWSS stands for Battered Women’s Support Services and was founded 40 years ago by two brave women who would not give up to fight and Continue Reading

About the book Please click here. What this page IS about is a source of information on narcissistic abuse in addition to the same-called book Narcotic Love: In and Out of the Coma of Narcissistic Abuse. It provides blog posts and a form of community for victims and survivors Continue Reading