Knowing When to Quit

One of the hardest decisions we face in our lives is knowing when to quit. We humans are creatures of habit and, thus, we have a tendency to cling to outdated concepts, routines, relationships, and believes; a comfort zone that we do not want to leave even though it has Continue Reading

Dealing with CPTSD During Self-Quarantine

If you have recently come out of a situation in which you experienced narcissistic abuse, chances are high that you are currently struggling with the symptoms of Complex Post-traumatic Stress (Disorder). Symptoms include: low self-esteem feeling of shame and guilt feeling of frustration, helplessness and being misunderstood depression and emotional Continue Reading

Workaholism: a Self-Destructive Coping Mechanism

For most part of my life, I used to call myself a workaholic. I used to be proud of my achievements and the careers I was building, and wore this badge with honor to the demise of my overall well-being. It was not until I had reached a breaking point Continue Reading

You are the First Responder

It has been two years since I have started my healing journey after a toxic relationship. This morning, I remembered the first six months of counseling and all the frustration that had come with it. While I had been struggling to overcome the trauma from my most recent encounter with Continue Reading

The Weather Approach to Acceptance

I live in Vancouver, Canada. If you have never been to Vancouver before, let me tell you, it can be frustrating sometimes… actually, quite often. I am not talking about the horrendous rents and mortgages here but something that is completely out of our control: the weather, of course. Informally Continue Reading

What Happened to Time?

It is without a doubt that we live in a fast-paced world today. However, as we all know, instant gratification is usually a short-lived experience and nothing to base our happiness on, so what is the matter with taking a step back and consider if the choices we make are Continue Reading

Stay for the children?

“We stay together for our children.” Parents First off, this article may surprise you, if you know that I do not have children. So how can I possibly be the judge of this situation? I can, because I was one of the children in a household of domestic violence where Continue Reading

Narcissism vs. Self-Love

You must love yourself firstbefore you can love someone else. The above saying is not only a cliché but it is also true. There is one thing narcissists and those who get involved with them for too long definitely have in common: a lack of self-love. Narcissists project their own Continue Reading

Keep the Evidence

If you were a victim of covert narcissistic abuse, chances are, you had been pretty much isolated, the abuse happened behind closed doors, and that is why a great number of people are not going to believe anything you say about this wonderful, charming, and supportive individual, i.e. the covert Continue Reading

“It’s not your fault.”

Below you see one of the most powerful scenes survivors may encounter, not just in the film Good Will Hunting, but in their own lives. It took me a long time to understand Robin William’s repetition of “It’s not your fault.” until I committed to healing myself. Suddenly, the scene Continue Reading