Reproductive Abuse and Coercion

Today, I want to address a subject that is still not known to many people, but has received rising attention in the past few years: Reproductive Abuse and Coercion. Reproductive abuse or coercion is the manipulation of someone’s reproductive health or decision-making as a means of controlling another person. Some Continue Reading

Stay for the children?

“We stay together for our children.” Parents First off, this article may surprise you, if you know that I do not have children. So how can I possibly be the judge of this situation? I can, because I was one of the children in a household of domestic violence where Continue Reading

“It’s not your fault.”

Below you see one of the most powerful scenes survivors may encounter, not just in the film Good Will Hunting, but in their own lives. It took me a long time to understand Robin William’s repetition of “It’s not your fault.” until I committed to healing myself. Suddenly, the scene Continue Reading

What is narcissistic abuse?

Narcissistic abuse in intimate relationships is the systematic destruction of a narcissist’s partner for his/her personal gain of narcissistic supply. Victims supply a narcissist in various ways, e.g. attention, housing, transportation, money, sex, food, status, jobs, etc. Narcissistic abuse follows a universally recognizable pattern divided in the four phases: Idealization or Love-bombing Devaluation Discard Continue Reading

Vancouver: BWSS 40 Years Later

Last Monday, I attended BWSS’s 40 Years Later celebration at the Orpheum in Vancouver with special guest Tarana Burke, the founder of the #MeToo movement. BWSS stands for Battered Women’s Support Services and was founded 40 years ago by two brave women who would not give up to fight and Continue Reading

About the book Please click here. What this page IS about is a source of information on narcissistic abuse in addition to the same-called book Narcotic Love: In and Out of the Coma of Narcissistic Abuse. It provides blog posts and a form of community for victims and survivors Continue Reading