Everyone knows the old adage that says, “The eyes are the windows to our souls.” Anyone who has been through narcissistic abuse or any other sort of trauma has probably noticed how their eyes had lost their shine over time; that dull deer-in-the-headlights-look that screamed “I want my life and happiness back!” even long after the relationship had ended. I have been there and, honestly, do not like to look at those pictures ever again, except for educational purposes.
While this old adage is obviously true, let me extend it a little bit, for as much as the eyes are windows to our souls, our skin can be just as telling. When exposed to highly stressful situations, which is the case in narcissistic abuse, our skin may be the first indicator before more severe health conditions are starting to show. Stress and anxiety cause hormonal imbalance and trigger an overproduction of cortisol which inevitably weakens the immune system, leading to inflammations in our bodies that are often expressed through our skin (our largest organ) at first before they impair other smaller organs inside, leading to greater, possibly even deadly, illnesses such as gastrointestinal disorders, heart problems, or even cancer.
For years, doctors have proclaimed that the skin is one of the best indicators when something is not right and out of balance: From dry skin, eczema, and other rashes to injuries that just won’t heal, that tingling feeling all over your body, stubborn acne breakouts that no over-the-counter or prescribed medication can seem to get under control, brittle fingernails and hair loss, infections or autoimmune disorders such as vitiligo shown in the depigmentation of the skin.
While it may be your gut feeling that alarms you first about something not being right with a situation (maybe you accepted a job that turned out to be toxic and stressful), pay close attention to your skin over time. After all, our bodies and our instincts are made to warn and protect us, inside and out, in every situation.