It is without a doubt that we live in a fast-paced world today. However, as we all know, instant gratification is usually a short-lived experience and nothing to base our happiness on, so what is the matter with taking a step back and consider if the choices we make are the right ones for us?
Since I got away from a malignant type of narcissist, who rushed me in to a relationship within merely two weeks, I reflected on what had happened during my healing journey. I cannot deny that this journey has slowed me down… a lot! I have started to take my time to make things right in the future, not only in relationships with other people but even in my professional life; I am not taking on any job or friendship quickly anymore but weigh the pros and cons and the red flags my intuition is making me aware of. To me, taking things slow is a sign of maturity, and yet, our society is working against it. Anyone trying to rush you into things should be faced with a healthy suspicion before you accept an offer.
I like to believe that it all started when home order television became a thing and the sales counter rushed people into buying stuff they actually had no use for. It used to be nothing but a mind trick. When you called and they had one item left for you, it probably made you feel special in the moment because “You got it!”, only to find out that the limited supply was a lie when they were trying to sell another hundred in stock the next week.
Our society is being drilled and manipulated to lose its conscious decision-making and puts us at risk of losing our free will.
Especially in the age of social media, we like and share random stuff without thinking of its meaning or its original source, and connect with people we thought we had an instant feeling of connection for one time, which is nothing but shallow. Facebook mistakenly calls these connections “Friends”, but by definition, a friend is someone you have gotten to know and bonded with over time. At worst, people swipe right and hook up with a person they only saw the picture of at high speed.
At this moment, my new Facebook account that I created during my healing is merely connected to about 30 close friends and relatives, and I am more than comfortable with it. It used to be about 400, if not more, whose friend requests I quickly accepted without vetting them. Eventually, some people turned out to be utterly toxic and trying to control part of my decisions in life. It was within my healing journey, as well, that I realized I do not need this sort of attention and their unsolicited advice.
Our bad experiences often come as a blessing in disguise though. They teach us to put proper boundaries in place, filter the good from the bad and the ugly, and most importantly, they teach us to step back and take our time in order to make the right decisions, and achieve quality over quantity for a quality life.